100 Questions to Ask a Guy That Make Him Attracted To You...

 

Okay, this is a tough question to answer... Try it yourself now.

When asking a guy this question he might be a little slow answering it. That's okay.

And (unless he is a wordsmith) he's probably going to answer with six words, rather than a coherent sentence - Again that's okay.

It's good to make him think and see how he reacts under a little fun pressure.

Pay close attention to the words he uses to describe himself.

Does he use negative, positive, bragging, funny, or humble words?

Either way, this is a great question to get a conversation flowing.

He might say, "I'm passionate".

You can then ask him what is it he is passionate about, how much of his time does he spend on his passion...

Better to find out now that he's given 20 hours a week (for the last 20 years) to watching football on TV.

The key here is to listen to what he says and ask him more about his answers rather than moving on to another question.

This question finds out what his long-term hobbies and interests are.

We all probably love something enough to be able to give a presentation at the drop of a hat.

Whether it's on the best way to color match clothes, or the best beaches in Asia, we all have something.

What you're trying to do with this question is get him to open up to you, to show you something under the surface...

So whatever subject he tells you he could give a presentation on without any preparation, ask him to tell you more about it.

Okay, I know what you're thinking...

What if his presentation is on something you have absolutely no interest in?

Well, don't fake it - tell him you're not interested in that subject... But you'd be open to listening to him tell you more about it.

You only need to show a genuine interest in something that excites him to make him more attracted to you.

Did he throw the touchdown pass, complete the hardest level on a video game, or was it the birth of his daughter..?

When you ask a guy this question you're digging much deeper into what he holds dear, and what makes him tick.

Some guys will be speechless when you ask this. They might say there are too many events to pick one...

That's really just an excuse. Most of us have that one special event which we hold close to our heart and we enjoy sharing with others.

That's why this question is so good for finding out what he really wants, and who he really is.

He might attempt to lie (in order to impress you)

He might feel embarrassed to share that getting the highest score on a video game is his life event.

He might be utterly dull and have nothing to share!

What you're looking for is enthusiasm from him. If he's a fun-loving guy, then it does not matter so much what it is he's done, but how he explains it to you.

When you ask a guy this question you're almost forcing him to tell you the truth.

The truth might be that his last vacation was ice swimming in Finland, or Cliff diving in Portugal...

Or he may have gone on a treasure hunt with his younger nephew.

The point is this. His answer is going to give you more of the juicy information you need to decide if he is a good match for you. Think about it...

Let's say his next trip is volcano boarding in Nicaragua - do you want to go that?

If you do, then great, you've found a potential match...

However, if you don't fancy hurling your body down the side of a volcano, what are you going to do all day?

Now, his idea of an adventure might catch you totally off guard. Maybe he overcame a fear of going to the dentist and considers that an adventure.

If you ask a guy this question you'll find out almost all you need to know about his integrity.

Perhaps he is good at keeping secrets...

Maybe he refuses to work with family members...

He could insist that he checks his behavoir before judging others...

When climbing stairs does he always start with his left foot and end with his left foot?

Again this question allows you to dig deeper into who he really is, and what he really wants.

Ask yourself what it says about him if he always replies with a joke...

Is he a comedian, or is he hiding something?

Remember the purpose of these questions is to find out what he really wants...

Who he wants to be with...

And awaken his deepest longing for love.

1. Describe yourself to me using only six words.
2. With absolutely no preparation time, what could you give a presentation on?
3. If you could show me a video of any one event in your life, what would I be watching?
4. What’s the last adventure you went on?
5. Tell me a personal rule you have that you never break.
6. What’s the one thing in your life you are most passionate about?
7. If you could win a gold medal for any activity, sports or otherwise, what would you win for?
8. What's the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?
9. What is one thing you'd most like me to know about you?
10. What do you get complimented on most often?
11. If you were exiled to a deserted island and could only bring three things with you, what would they be?
12. If you won 100 million dollars in the lottery, what would you do with it?
13. If you could instantly be an expert at one thing, what would it be?
14. If you didn’t have to worry about money, what would you do all day long?
15. If you had to relive one hour of your life on repeat, what hour would it be?
16. If you were the only man left on Earth, what would you do?
17. If you created your own civilization, what one rule does everyone have to follow?
18. If you were a superhero, what would your superhuman power be?
19. If you were cryogenically frozen for the last 200 years, what would your first question be when you woke?
20. If you found a crystal ball that could reveal one thing about your future, what would you most want to know?
21. If you never had to sleep, what would you do with the extra time?
22. Which of your scars tells the best story?
23. There are two different kinds of people in the world - what are they?
24. What cartoon land would be the most fun to live in?
25. Has anything ever happened to you that you can't explain?
26. What’s the most illegal thing you’ve ever done?
27. If you were put into solitary confinement, what would you do to stay sane?
28. What one question would you most like to ask God/the universe?
29. If you can make a 30 second phone call to yourself as a young adult, what would you say?
30. What concept hurts your brain to think about?
31. What’s at the top of your bucket list?
32. What seemingly insignificant things always make your day better?
33. What’s the most annoying question people ask you?
34. What do you wish you knew more about?
35. Describe what your perfect day would look like.
36. What charity would you create?
37. What age do you wish you could be permanently, and why?
38. What's the most embarrassing moment of your life?
39. What are your pet peeves?
40. Name one frivolous item you can’t imagine living without?
41. How different was your life one year ago?
42. What might make you an annoying roommate?
43. What's your biggest fear or phobia?
44. What has been your biggest obstacle to overcome in life?
45. What would a person be like if he was a mirror opposite of you?
46. What are you the most self-conscious about?
47. Name something you still like to do the old-fashioned way.
48. Where is your happy place?
49. If you had to change your name, what would you change it to?
50. What's the biggest lifestyle change you've made in the last decade?
51. What’s special about where you live?
52. What’s the farthest you’ve ever traveled from home?
53. Besides here, is there anywhere else you would love to live?
54. Tell me about your family in order of who lives closest to you.
55. What event or circumstances have most defined your family?
56. Name one thing your parents wish you had done that just wasn’t you:
57. What was unique about the way (or place) you grew up?
58. If your childhood could be defined by a particular scent, what would it smell like?
59. What was the worst time you ever got in trouble as a kid?
60. Did your parents choose your name or a special reason?
61. How has something you learned from your parents changed your life?
62. What is the most important holiday tradition in your family?
63. How did you choose the job you have now?
64. If you could go back and choose a different career path, what would you do?
65. What is the best part of your work?
66. What is the most stressful or annoying aspect of your job?
67. Do you consider yourself to be an introvert or extrovert?
68. When you aren’t working, how do you unwind?
69. Tell me something about yourself that might surprise me:
70. What is your worst habit?
71. If I trolled your social media pages, what would I find?
72. If I called your closest friend, How would he/she describe you to me?
73. What makes you different from every other guy I know?
74. What in your life are you most grateful for?
75. Who has had the biggest impact on your life?
76. If you could have dinner with anybody in the world, past or present, who would it be?
77. If you had to eat the same 2 meals for the rest of your life, what would you choose?
78. What’s the weirdest food you’ve ever eaten?
79. Are you an adventurous or picky eater?
80. Besides food, what else are you adventurous or picky about?
81. If your life was a movie, what genre would it be?
82. Who would play you in the movie version of your life?
83. If you had a time-traveling DeLorean, where in time would you travel?
84. What are the significant numbers in your life?
85. If you could “Freaky Friday” and trade places with any other person for a week, who would it be?
86. What fad or trend do you hope comes back in style?
87. What famous person do you admire the most?
88. What book is on your nightstand?
89. Which type of ball will I find in your house?
90. Do you consider yourself more of a participant or a spectator?
91. What’s the best costume you ever wore for Halloween?
92. What are you most likely to be on stage for?
93. In what ways are you musical?
94. In your opinion, who puts on the best concert?
95. The music is repeating the same song over and over - what song do you hope to hear?
96. What song instantly transports you back to high school?
97. What’s your guilty pleasure?
98. Who makes you laugh?
99. What was your most embarrassing moment?
100. Where is your happy place?

Read through these questions several times before you ever go out! You might even keep them on your phone for quick reference - just be discreet about looking at them!
 
And one more thing…be ready with your own unique answers to these questions! This is the best little trick to instantly make you seem more confident and interesting. You want your answers to be brief, but thoughtful.
 
For example, in response to a question like, “Where do you live?” you don’t want to say, “Oh, I live in an apartment off 23rd Street.” Because that response is boring. And it doesn’t reveal anything about your personality.
 
Instead, plan your response to this common question in advance. Something more colorful like: “I live in a very eclectic space. My family hates that it’s in a sketchy neighborhood, but the apartment makes me feel at home. Plus, it’s walking distance to this little bakery that makes the most delicious croissants on the planet!”
 
Use your voice to your advantage. Different men are drawn to different vocal qualities, but you should embrace anything that’s sexy about your voice. The best way to do that? Slow your speech enough for him to hear the resonant tones in your voice.
 
If you’re in a noisy place, speak up but don’t yell. Take your voice up ever so slightly higher and be animated when you speak. Voice inflection and hand gestures make a conversation more engaging.
 

• The Science of Asking Great Questions - American Management Association 
   
• 1000 Questions for couples - What you absolutely should know about your mate 
   
• 500 Intimate questions for couples - Michael Webb 
   
• 36 Questions to bring you closer together - Psychology Today